Is our society too sensitive? Do we expect everyone else to know our sensitivities? Studio 5 Contributor Dr. Julie Hanks is the owner of Wasatch Family Therapy. She shares 5 questions find out if you are too easily offended and how to move beyond it.
Human beings are prone to mistakes, and we all have the experience of doing or saying something that has hurt another person (even someone we value and love). In order to repair those precious relationships, it is often necessary to apologize. But simply saying, “I’m sorry” is rarely enough. Here are 5 steps to giving a powerful, sincere apology:
1) Own Your Part
To truly mean that you are sorry, you need to own up to the specific thing you said or did that contributed to the other person’s pain. Take full responsibility for the part you played. Avoid general statements (“I’m sorry for whatever I did to hurt you“) or making reservations about the mistake you made. Have the courage to own up to your fault.
Straightforward advice for your toughest relationship situations!
This week on KSL TV’s Studio 5 with Brooke Walker I tackle viewer’s tough relationship dilemmas in this new Q & A segment called “Ask Julie.”
I was interviewed by Redbook Magazine to discuss why/how some phrases work well when ending a fight with your partner. Many of these phrases are meant to clarify, pause, or help you re-connect when conversations start going in to a downward spiral.
Will you be my friend? It sounds like a line straight off of Sesame Street. But research suggests adults could take a Kindergarten clue, when it comes to making friends.
Ok, ok. I know some of you will give me flack about this. You’ve heard me speak, write, and blog on the importance of setting healthy boundaries, saying “no”, and not over-commiting ourselves, right? Well, sometimes you’ve just got to break your own rules! Like when one of the top websites top websites in the US and globally offers you a paying gig as their Relationship Expert!
I didn’t say yes immediately. I wanted to do my homework and make sure that it was worth my time and energy. It was. And I said YES!
Big successes are easy to spot but sometimes small accomplishments are overlooked.
If you want to celebrate the success of others, therapist Julie Hanks, LCSW says to look beyond appearance and praising what really matters. Read more
“I need help” are often the hardest words for women to say. But therapist Julie Hanks, LCSW says learning to ask for help could change your life.
Why it’s hard to ask for help
We’re afraid people will think less of us
We’re afraid of rejection
We’re afraid of looking weak
We’re afraid of looking imperfect