Julie shares tips for limiting children’s technology use
Jane: “I’ve been married 4 years and we agreed husband would finish his education while I worked to support us. He hasn’t made progress toward degree. I’m getting angry. What can I do?”
Through my own personal experience, coupled with professional experience working with families for nearly 20 years, I’ve learned a few helpful strategies for navigating those occasional stressful situations that come whenever families gather.
It’s not your job to make everyone happy
Even though I deal holiday celebrations are associated with happiness, remember that it’s not your job to make everyone happy. Someone will inevitably be disappointed because they didn’t get a gift they were hoping for or because you spent more time with your partner’s family than with them. I worked with a woman in my clinical practice who worked so hard to make sure that everyone delighted with the holiday gifts and family celebrations that she ended up exacerbating her existing physical health problems and had to spend most of the holiday in bed. We worked together to help her let others have the “privilege” of learning how to deal with disappointment and upset.
Sheri: “I’m facing a lot of changes. I’m starting to resent my military husband for being gone so much at school and work. I’m struggling to support him, to take care of our children, and get my own needs met.”
Did you know that Cosmopolitan Magazine has a regular marriage column? I didn’t know until I interviewed with the talented and witty writer Kristina Grish, who chronicles the ups and downs of her own marriage in her monthly Cosmo “Love, For Keeps” column. Check out page 122 of Dec. Issue (yes, the one with the lovely and insanely talented Taylor Swift on the cover).