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5 Ways To Be an Amazing Mother-In-Law: Studio 5

When an adult child gets married, it can be difficult for his/her parents to navigate their new role as an in-laws. I am learning this myself, as my oldest son got married in the not too distant past. Unfortunately, our culture has created a negative stereotype of in-laws (particularly mother-in-laws), but your own experience can be a positive one! Here are 5 ways to be an amazing mother-in-law:

5 Ways to Be an Amazing Mother-In-Law

1) Expect and Embrace Differences

A family unit can thought of as a sort of “organism;” it has its own traditions, belief system, and even its own quirks. When a new person enters this family (through marriage), there are bound to be differences. Recognize that there is no such thing as a completely seamless transition, and expect  your new son-in-law or daughter-in-law to do some things in a new way. You can learn to celebrate these differences as well! It can also be helpful to talk about family expectations in order to navigate this change. Read more

Passive-Aggressive Conversation Killers: Studio 5

Some people joke that women talk in code (and there’s probably some small truth to that!). But what if women owned up to their mixed messages and instead spoke their truth and said what they meant? That’s the topic behind this round of “What To Say Instead.” While it can be tempting to speak somewhat passive-aggressively, it’s much better to be honest and authentic about our feelings.

The following scenarios are ones in which woman mask their true emotions with trite sayings. But doing so is harmful to relationships because it’s deceptive and can limit intimacy. Read about better things to say to communicate and bridge those connections:

Scenario #1: Jane gets a call from her sister. At the time, she is trying to make dinner for her family, take care of her sick baby, and help her recently unemployed husband comb through job applications. Her sister asks how she is doing. Her response: “I’m fine.”

What To Say Instead – If this is a sister with whom she has a close relationship, it’s okay to open up! She doesn’t necessarily have to divulge all personal details, but saying something as simple as, “I’m having a really hard day, honestly” is telling the truth. There’s a pressure as women to appear as if something is going smoothly, but it’s okay to admit we don’t have it all together.

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Do Your Kids Define You?: Studio 5

Being a good parent requires a tremendous amount of time, love, and energy, but what happens when a Do your kids define you?well-meaning mom or dad becomes too enmeshed in their children’s lives? Over-involvement can unknowingly do damage to kids, who then become responsible for their parents’ well-being and happiness. On the other hand, parents who can draw a separation between themselves and their children are emotionally healthier and are actually able to give more to their families.

Stop Overreacting article Community Orange Magazine

Do you get very upset or angry easily?  Have you ever been accused of being hot-headed?  If you respond with intensity and emotion that is disproportionate to the situation at hand, you are overreacting.

I recently had an article published in the August edition of Community Orange Magazine where I discussed strategies to keep calm and appropriately respond to stressful situations.  Here are a few basic ways to keep from overreacting.

Click here to read the full article about ways to keep your cool.

Normal or Not: The Lightening Round

 

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Listen as I answer a lightening round of questions on “Normal or Not” with Todd and Erin on Rewind 100.7.

Is it normal to tuck yourself tightly under the covers? How about stripping down to your skivvies right when you get home from work? Find the answers to all these questions and more!

 

When Your Partner’s Adorable Habits Become Annoying: WSJ Interview

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Have you ever been annoyed by certain habits or quirks of your partner that you once found endearing?  Perhaps you were drawn to a man because you admired his work ethic, but then later came to see him as a workaholic.  Or maybe you initially liked how a woman was dedicated to physical fitness, but eventually  felt she was self-absorbed.  This phenomenon, which experts refer to as a fatal attraction, can wreak havoc on relationships.

I had the opportunity to give my insight on this topic in a new Wall Street Journal article out today entitled, “How to Cope When You and Your Partner are Falling Out of Love.” Other relationship experts and I discuss how to appropriately handle this fatal attraction in such ways as recognizing that every character trait has pros and cons, reflecting on what you do appreciate about your romantic partner, and considering how the other person brings balance to the relationship.

Click here to read the article in full.

 

 

 

When a Loved One Experiences a Faith Transition

When a loved one goes through a faith crisis showing respect, compassion, and trust in the relationship are key.

When a Loved One Experiences a Faith Transition

Religion is a part of our culture and our identity, both individually and as a society.  Sometimes, however, a person experiences a faith crisis (sometimes referred to as a faith transition) and chooses a different path.  Studies show that 28% of Americans change their religious preference at least once in their lives, and the number continues to grow.  This is an issue that hits the hearts and homes of many in our community, and can unfortunately be a source of great pain, confusion, and potential conflict in families.  Here are some strategies to handle a faith transition of a loved one:  

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Lessons From Gwyneth and Chris on Emotional Vulnerability: Shape Magazine

In the wake of Chris Martin’s recent comments that he was to blame for the breakup with Gwyneth Paltrow, I was invited to share my thoughts on the importance of sharing emotional vulnerability with your partner.

“Even if he can’t do anything to fix the situation, that doesn’t mean it’s not worth discussing,” says Julie Hanks, a couples therapist and executive director of Wasatch Family Therapy in Salt Lake City. “We all need to be comforted when we’re emotionally distressed, upset, or burdened.”

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The Resolution That’s Not on Your Radar: Shape Magazine Interview

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What’s your New Year’s Resolution? Losing 5 pounds? Getting more organized? I interviewed recently with Shape Magazine to talk about a resolution that you may not have considered…improving your emotional connections.

Here are a few of my tips on how to strengthen your face-to-face relationships with loved ones…

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