I recently had the opportunity to discuss aspirational shame in mothers with Katy and Valerie of “The Motherhood Tribe” podcast. Aspirational shame is a topic I’ve written about for many years and refers to the feelings of guilt or unworthiness that some women experience when they have desires or ambitions outside of their home and family life.
I was thrilled to speak with Rosemary Card about motherhood, marriage, and cultural expectations of women within the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Going off of my TEDxOgden Talk “The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood,” we discussed some of the nuances of what it looks like to be a woman in the Church.
So often in relationships, we are aware of the other person’s needs and work to fulfill them. While this is a wonderful trait, it can lead to burnout if we chronically neglect ourselves. Here are some self-care tips that actually help strengthen our relationships with others:
I was pleased to have the recent opportunity to speak with Emma Bell of “The Inside Shift” podcast about my latest book, “The Assertiveness Guide For Women: How To Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries, and Transform Your Relationships.” Although we talked about many different facets of and ideas found within the book, I was especially excited to share my personal experience with developing and practicing assertiveness, which has largely guided my career, my relationships, and of course, my journey in crafting this creative work. Here are some highlights from my discussion with Emma:
Are you crafty? Do you enjoy sewing or making elaborate designs to adorn your house or entertain your children? I’ll admit that craftiness is not really my thing; I prefer musical expression and writing, but everyone has different creative outlets, and for some, crafts are enjoyable and fun! Read more
The book features valuable suggestions and poignant real-life examples to help us speak up and effectively express ourselves. As I mentioned in my endorsement, I truly believe it should be required reading for all women and girls. Because setting solid boundaries isn’t something we’re normally taught. And yet it’s the foundation for everything: healthy relationships, a meaningful, fulfilling life.
I grew up in contradictory worlds.
I was born and raised in Studio City, California in the heart of the entertainment business. Our neighbor was a makeup artist for movies like “Top Gun.” My extended family had a TV show, and my father, a professional musician, was the musical director on several national television shows when I was a young child. Witnessing this kind of creative expression and visible success, I believed that anything was possible for my life.
I provided commentary on the life of Marvin Gaye for “Celebrity Legacies” on ReelzChannel. His life is unfortunately a sad reminder of the devastating long-reaching effects of child abuse.
Airing Aug. 19 10pm Eastern, 8PM Mountain on Reelz
Moms have a lot to do, and we often take pride in accomplishing tasks and checking items off of our to-do lists. But when we don’t achieve what we set out to, unfortunately we can beat ourselves up (this happens particularly during changes and chapter endings, such as summer winding down and kids heading back to school). It seem to be human nature to focus on what we didn’t get done, but focusing on our shortcomings (perceived or real) can lead to great unhappiness and emotional distress. Here are 5 ways to resolve mom guilt: Read more
Celebrity Legacies on ReelzChannel is back! I am so excited for these new episodes to air.
American musician Ray Charles has been referred to as “The Genius” for good reason; known as the father of soul, Ray combined elements of gospel, rock, country, and jazz to produce a truly unique sound. Additionally, he was one of the first African Americans to have almost complete artistic freedom with a major record label. A prolific pianist, songwriter, and performer, Ray enthralled the nation with such hits as “Hit the Road Jack,” “I Got a Woman,” and his acclaimed cover of “Georgia On My Mind.”
Ray Charles’s Successes
The smashing success of Charles’s decade-spanning career is clearly evident: 17 Grammy awards, induction into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, and other creative masters like Frank Sinatra and Billy Joel singing his praises. Even the United States Postal Service paid homage to Ray by putting his face on a forever stamp in 2013. But when you consider the fact that he developed glaucoma as a young child and was completely blind by the age of 7, his accomplishments become truly remarkable.