Help Dealing With Vindictive Neighbor: Julie Hanks Show BYU Radio 10-23-12 part 1
In this episode of The Julie Hanks Show:
- Parenting tweens: How do I help my 12 year old girl’s self-esteem and help her to become more feminine?
- Transition to parenthood: I’ve worked full-time until having my first baby. How do I redefine myself now that I am a new stay-at-home mom?
- Forgiving mom about childhood abuse: How do I build a healthy relationship with my mom as an adult?
In episode 010 “How Thinking More Like A “Man” Can Help Women” on “You And Yours” self & relationship expert and therapist Julie Hanks, LCSW shares how developing more male or systemizing ways to approach problems and challenges can help you get what you want in life.
In episode 008 “Creating an Emotionally Hot Marriage” on “You & Yours” self & relationship expert and therapist Julie Hanks, LCSW shares tips to create and keep a strong emotional connection in your marriage relationship.
Self & relationship expert Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW is wife of 22 years and mother of 4, a performing songwriter, a licensed psychotherapist, a popular media contributor, and director of Wasatch Family Therapy. Watch Julie on KSL TVâ€™s Studio 5, listen on B98.7 radio, and read her national advice columns on Psych Central, and Latter-day Woman Magazine. Follow Julie on Facebook & Twitter.
I stopped by KSL Radio’s The Nightside Project last night to talk with Ethan and Alex about why Americans are more anxious and stressed than ever and what we can do about it here in Utah.Â I had so much fun that I ended up staying for another segment talking about the importance of men expressing vulnerability in relationships and the top movies that make men cry.
Click on link for (second hour) for Thursday, February 3, 2011
1-Manage your own stress
Examine your own expectations and let go of some things so you’ll be your best version of yourself and able to manage family conflict calmly.
2-You can’t try to please everyone
It’s not your job to make everyone happy and meet their expectations of you. Remember “no one died from disappointment!”
3-Schedule down time
Especially if you have family coming to stay with you during the holidays make sure to carve out time for you and for your marriage. Build self-care into the schedule so you don’t get too overwhelmed.
4-Start with your own family then move outward
Ask yourself, your spouse, and your children how THEY want to spend their time, and make that top priority.
5-Just because you’ve always done it doesn’t mean you have to continue to do it
Traditions are meant to create meaning and promote bonding, not bondage. Choose to skip out on some of the expected things. That’s the beauty of being an adult — you get to choose what you want to do.
6-Set expectations ahead of time
If you know that in the past there have been conflicts, address it ahead of time. Where will family be staying? If you’re hosting a party what are your expectations of others?
7-No on can “guilt trip” you without consent
When you’re approached by a family member about an event you’re not attending or why you didn’t spend as much money as someone spent on you, don’t take the bait!
8-Answer those awkward questions with confidence
You’ve go to love those questions like “So your husband’s still unemployed?” or “So you finally decided to come to OUR Christmas party this year?” answer directly and with confidence.
9-Assume other’s best intentions
With so many expectations swirling, too much sugar, and not enough sleep, it’s easy to get offended if a sister in law forgot to give you a gift, or if your uncle makes an off-handed comment about your parenting skills. Assume the BEST instead of the worst case scenario for their motive.
10-Listen to others graciously and do what you want to do
While it’s nice if everyone’s expectations are met, it’s unlikely. Empathize with your extended family’s disappointment that you couldn’t make their party or you chose to opt out of a certain tradition, and then continue with your holiday plans.
Merry Christmas and take good care of You and Yours!
Listen to Julie Hanks, LCSW weekly podcast show You and Yours on the Women’s Information Network
Listen to my latest podcast
All He Wants For Christmas Is You (episode 003)
Listen online to my interview yesterday on KSL radio’s “A Woman’s View” hosted by the fabulous Amanda Dixon as we chat about current news and events!
Last week Dr. Todd Dunn & I did an interview with Rebecca Cressman of Utah Families show on FM100.3 on Men & Depression.
Did you know that men’s
depression symptoms may differ from women?
Did you know that many men mask their depression by substance use, working excessively, or engaging in reckless behavior?
Do you know that 7% of men in any given year suffer from depression?
Do you know how to spot warning signs?
Get tips on how to help the men and boys in your life become more emotionally healthy and where to get help if you or a loved one is suffering from depression
Listen to “Men & Depression” interview online HERE
For information about therapy visit our website WasatchFamilyTherapy.com or call 801.944.4555.
In podcast episode 002 “Lose Your Excuses! Exercise For Your Mental Health” on “The You And Yours Show” self & relationship expert Julie Hanks, LCSW gives you practical solutions to common exercise excuses. Julie shows you how to prioritize exercise so you can experience not only the physical benefits, but the mental and emotional benefits of better mood, less anxiety, stress management, and more!
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