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Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Podcast: How Do I Overcome Resentment That I Didn’t Explore Options Other Than Motherhood?

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches her cousin, Tyler, and addresses the question “How do I overcome resentment that I didn’t explore options other than motherhood?” Tyler shares her experience growing up in a religious and familial culture that idealized motherhood. Painting a romanticized picture of motherhood as the path to bliss, the cure to loneliness and suffering, and the only path to a purposeful life, is doing young women a great disservice. 

As mothers, we need to include ourselves and what we want in our life. During this episode, Dr. Hanks talks about the cost of idealizing motherhood, the resentment mothers may feel, and shares ways mothers can stop feeling mom guilt and reclaim their identity.

5 Ways to Reduce Mom Guilt

5 Motherhood Myths Making You Miserable

Ted Talk: The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood 
If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Podcast: Does My Child’s Behavior Problem Mean I’m a Bad Mom?

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Cheryl Cardall, host of the Fight Like a Mother podcast, and addresses the question, “Does My Child’s Behavior Problem Mean I’m a Bad Mom?” It is common for parents to take responsibility for the behavior of their children, especially when the behavior is negative. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks talks about how we invest so much time into our children that it can be hard to manage the feelings when things aren’t going well. The idea that “if I were good enough as a parent, this wouldn’t be happening” is a pain point for many, and Dr. Hanks gives guidance for how to separate parenthood from behaviors of our children. 

Cherly Cardall on Instagram

Fight Like a Mother Podcast 

5 Ways to Reduce Mom Guilt 

5 Motherhood Myths Making You Miserable

Ted Talk: The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Podcast: How to Manage Guilt and Shame in Motherhood

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Ali and addresses the question, “How to manage guilt and shame in motherhood?” We use guilt and shame interchangeably in society but they are different things. Guilt is about behavior, whereas shame is about who I am as a person. Guilt says “I feel bad about this specific behavior” and shame says “I am a bad human being. I am worthless. I am no good.”

During this episode, Dr. Hanks talks about how society defines motherhood by always being home and present with your children. There is no right way to be a mother. You will mess up your kids but the goal is to do it unintentionally. Letting go of the idea of perfection in motherhood can help pull you out of the mom guilt cycle. 

5 Ways to Reduce Mom Guilt 

5 Motherhood Myths Making You Miserable

Ted Talk: The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Podcast: How To Deal With Divorced Parents?

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Tori and addresses the question, “How to deal with divorced parents?” Divorce changes the family dynamic and can put strain on family relationships, particularly when the divorced parents do not want to engage with each other. Evan as adult children, having to hold separate birthday parties, holidays, and other family events can be tiring and cause individuals to feel like they have to pick and choose.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks discusses the importance of grieving the family you once had, and communicating boundaries with parents and other family members about what you will discuss, who you will visit, and what you will be a part of moving forward.

Course:
Managing Difficult Family Relationships During the Holidays 

Improving Family Communication 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Ask Dr. Julie Hanks Podcast: How To Tell Family about Faith Transition

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Mikayla and addresses the question, “How to tell family about faith transition?” During a faith transition it is normal to have fears about disappointing your parents and feeling alienated from your family. Taking charge of your faith is a normal part of growth and development and there is nothing wrong with you.

If you are wanting to talk to your parents and/or family about a faith transition:

1. Ask parents to select a time they are available to have a hard conversation

2. Write down the main points of what you want to convey to them and what you want from them

3. Make that request

Course: Finding the Middle Ground in the LDS Church 

25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones

25 Things NOT to Say to a Loved One Leaving the Church

Read Dr. Hanks’ popular Mormon Cultural Commentary Blog Articles

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com