Latter-day Woman interviews LDS women from all over the world in their Grapevine LIVE series. I had a delightful chat with their host Sheri Joi on Thursday evening (scroll down to the bottom of the page to find my interview).
Wasatch Woman Magazine July 2010
Here’s today’s relationship column in the July 2010 issue of Wasatch Woman Magazine, now available as an insert in the Deseret News & Salt Lake Tribune! I’m thrilled about the opportunity to inspire even more women with my column. Here’s today’s article. Enjoy.
Watch my TV segment on this topic HERE
Read “Favorite Phrases For Relationship Confrontations” WW articleÂ HERE.
Learn more about my therapy clinic HERE
Me? Quoted on a gaming website? I guess it makes sense given it’s an article about relationships and gaming. Video games aren’t just for kids anymore! Time spent using technology, including video game obsession, is a common issue in serious relationships. Here’s what I have to say on what’s really going on for the woman and how to avoid letting video games sabotage your relationship!
Read the article online here…
Have video games impacted your serious relationship?
How have you successfully managed game time vs. face to face time?
Feel free to post comments below (email address will be kept private)
INITIATIVE SEEKS WOMEN TO WORK OUT FINANCES PUBLICLY
Amanda Dixon interviewed me for a story about KSL’s campaign to help women become more financially empowered.Â You can apply for a “financial makeover” at imagineahappieryou.com for the next 2 days! Here’s today’s news segment…
Read the web article online HERE
Feel free to post your comments one women, money, & relationships below.
(your email address will be kept private)
Raising An Emotionally Healthy Child on KSL TV’s Studio 5
Self and Relationship Expert Julie Hanks, LCSW, Owner and Director of Wasatch Family Therapy, shares how you can become your child’s “emotion coach” and help her develop emotional health. Watch the segment online!
As a parent, I find it’s often easier to focus on my children’s physical and external needs (food, shelter, clothing, grooming, education, relationships) than on their emotional needs. As a therapist I understand the crucial role that emotions play in our lives, but when I was a new mom and my own children expressed intense emotions, it was challenging to help them work through it. I tried hard not to shame or to dismiss their emotions, but I also didn’t want their intense emotion to rule my lifeâ€¦or theirs. When I came across the work of Dr. John Gottman and his book Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child several years ago I remember thinking, “This fits with what I intuitively knew about parenting and it describes the parent I want to be!” It provided a framework to help me more effectively help my children understand and express emotions in healthy and productive ways.
Why Emotional Intelligence Matters
According to Dr. John Gottman’s research emotionally healthy, emotionally intelligent children are better able to regulate their emotions, calm their heart rate faster after being emotionally upset, had fewer infections, are better at focusing attention, have healthier peer relationships, and perform better academically. The best way to help you children achieve emotional health is to adopt an “emotion coaching” parenting style.
Dr. Gottman’s 5 Steps to Emotion Coaching:
1. Be aware of your child’s emotions
2. View emotional expression as opportunity for teaching and intimacy
3. Listen, empathize, and validate your child’s feelings
4. Label emotions in words your child understands
5. Help your child come up with solution or way to manage emotions
Recommended Parenting Books:
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman, PhD & Joan Declaire
Parenting From The Inside Out by Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Self & Relationship Expert Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW, founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, LLC specializes in women’s mental health therapy, marriage counseling and family therapy. Visit www.wasatchfamilytherapy.com to learn more about counseling services, workshops, & classes. Visit HERE for more relationship advice.
Join the discussion by posting comments below (your email will be kept private). I’d love to know your favorite parenting books. What do you do to raise emotionally healthy kids?
Joanne Milner (Education Partnership Coordinator with Mayor Ralph Becker) & I chatted with Amanda Dixon on “A Woman’s View” KSL radio show, which aired today, July 4th at 10am.
We talked about current news topics ranging from patriotism, high profile affairs in the media, to mudslinging in political campaigns…
Listen Online HERE
A recent study a Penn State suggests that teen girls who think they are overweight but are actually at a healthy weight are more at risk for depression than their overweight peers. I was invited to comment as an “expert” on the topic in an AOLHealth.com article and give suggestions on how parents can help their teens develop healthy body image.
Here’s a link to the article…
Since I work with so many religious clients I was delightful to participate in this interview on the topic of God in Therapy with CR & Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC who host the Therapy Soup Blog. Here’s the first Q & A in the interview titled “God in Therapy: Songwriter & Psychotherapist Julie Hanks Shatters Stereotypes.”
Q: “Weâ€™re the first to say our own viewÂ may be somewhatÂ limited due to lack of exposure and we donâ€™t want to fall guilty of stereotyping, so can you reflect a bit on Mormon culture in general?
A: Unfortunately, much of the media coverage on â€œMormonâ€ extremists, like Warren Jeffs for example, arenâ€™t actually even Mormon and in no way represent Mormon culture or lifestyle.
Most practicing Mormonâ€™s are fiercely dedicated to taking care of their families. They also generously donate time and resources, are conscientious community members, and genuinely trying to make the world better.”
Read the entire PsychCentral interview HERE
Quoted by MSN.com “Recess Rascals”
Has your child been picked on? Inevitably, every child goes through being left out or being teased during recess at some point in their school experience. Read this MSN.com Mom’s Homeroom article on “Recess Rascals” for tips on:
How to know when it’s bullying
When bad behavior isn’t so bad
How to know when it’s bullying & what to do (*I’m quoted in this section)
I responded to a reported request yesterday for an “expert” to comment on spoiled kids. When I got the questions it was about Suri Cruise’s being seen, at age 4 using an iPad and my comments ended up on E! Online article “She Has an iPad – So is Suri Cruise Spoiled?” Kinda fun.
Read Article HERE
How do you define a “spoiled” kid??? Post your comments below…(email will not be made public)