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Balancing Sacrifice and Self-Care: Mormon Marriages

If we don’t invest time in developing our sense of self, we can’t be “self-less.” We wouldn’t have anything to offer. – Dr Julie Hanks

!I talked with Angilyn and Nate Bagley recently about how to balancing caring for the self while caring and sacrificing for others and God. Enjoy!

You Don’t Have to Be the Sacrificial Lamb of Your Family: About Progress Podcast

I loved interviewing with Monica Packer, host of About Progress Podcast on the topic of playing the mommy martyr in your family. Here’s how she describes the episode. “If you feel a little bit lost, uncertain of where to start, or even what’s missing, I have been there. I’m even sharing an experience years ago that made me feel like pursuing anything outside of my children was selfish. Now I know that to be more selfless, to be able to give of myself to my family, I have to be my whole self first. Tune in to this episode for the practical push you need find your passions again.”

Protecting Your Family’s Mental Health During COVID-19 Crisis

With all of the focus on physical health during the Corona Virus Pandemic, it’s easy to forget about our mental health. While we are focused on protecting our physical health by staying home, social distancing, and refraining from many of our usual activities, our mental health may suffer.  The change in routine, social isolation, a sense of uncertainty, and increased stress may leave us feeling heightened anxiety, a sense of hopelessness or doom, agitated, frustrated, or a variety of other difficult emotions.

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25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones

There are some common phrases that people who’ve left the Church say to believing love ones that are very painful, even if they’re well-meaning. Once you’ve left the Church, you often want to share what you’ve learned with others. Here’s a list of 25 things NOT to say to believing loved ones and what TO say instead. Everyone wants to be respected and validated.

25 Things NOT to Say to a Loved One Leaving the Church

There are some common phrases that believing loved ones say to loved ones leaving the Church that are often hurtful, even when they are said with positive intent. I’ve also worked with many people who have left the Church that long to hear certain thing from their family members.

Here are 2 lists: what NOT TO say and TO say to a loved one leaving the Church. There’s an option to download PDF version that you can print out and share.

Creating a Partnership Marriage: KSL The Mom Show

Many women feel chronically overwhelmed trying to juggle family, work, and household responsibilities. Even when partners both work full-time outside of the home, women are still doing the majority of childcare and household chores. It’s time to require more partnership at home.

What is a partnership marriage? How is it different than a “traditional” marriage? What are the benefits to women, men, and children? And most importantly, how do you develop a marriage where both partners share parenting and household responsibilities? I joined host Lindsay Aerts on KSL Newsradio’s The Mom Show to talk about how to create a partnership marriage and family.