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25 Things NOT to Say to Believing Loved Ones

There are some common phrases that people who’ve left the Church say to believing love ones that are very painful, even if they’re well-meaning. Once you’ve left the Church, you often want to share what you’ve learned with others. Here’s a list of 25 things NOT to say to believing loved ones and what TO say instead. Everyone wants to be respected and validated.

25 Things NOT to Say to a Loved One Leaving the Church

There are some common phrases that believing loved ones say to loved ones leaving the Church that are often hurtful, even when they are said with positive intent. I’ve also worked with many people who have left the Church that long to hear certain thing from their family members.

Here are 2 lists: what NOT TO say and TO say to a loved one leaving the Church. There’s an option to download PDF version that you can print out and share.