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Recognizing and Healing from Manipulative Relationships: Art of Connection

I recently sat down with Baya Voce, host of The Art of connection, to talk about narcissism, sociopathy, pathological lying, gaslighting and so much more. The biggest take-home message is that anyone can find themselves in a manipulative relationship, and you can heal. For therapy in Utah visit Learn more about Baya Voce.

Have you experienced manipulation in a relationship? What were the signs? How did you recover?

About Dr. Julie Hanks, LCSW:
Dynamic self & relationship expert Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW loves to make a difference for women. She owns Wasatch Family Therapy and regularly contributes to KSL TV's Studio 5, and her advice has been featured nationally including Wall Street Journal, Parenting, Fox News, and others. Connect on InstagramFacebook & Twitter. Her book The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women are available now. Dr. Hanks is currently accepting coaching clients <a href="/coaching



Thank you! I love your book, your website, and the videos you share are so helpful! I want to shout these things from the rooftops to make sure every woman of dating or marrying age has real guidance. A woman who has not experienced these tactics (or who hasn’t recognized them) could be so blindsided. Even just the advice to say no is a wonderful place to start. Being able to see yourself as your own person is a difficult skill for some, and recognize that icky feeling when you want to say no but are too worried about what will happen if you do. It’s absolutely okay to say no when that’s what you really want! I can’t say thank you enough!


I’m in the interesting situation where, instead of my husband manipulating me to stay, he’s the one that decided I wasn’t meeting his needs enough to make him happy. I had become a burden and was making his life miserable so he wanted a divorce. “I love you but being married to you is just too hard.” And so he seems to have transitioned into “buddy” mode. It’s like he didn’t grasp that I was devastated that he was destroying our marriage, he thought we could just be friends instead. He wants the friendship and support without the obligations of being a husband anymore. And I finally see that he’s no longer an equal partner and I’ve filed for divorce and I’m trying to move on with my life, but it’s so hard for me to figure out how to create boundaries. I still feel like I have to be nice to him and not hurt his feelings and I miss the friendship we had as a couple. Becoming separate is hard.

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